Are You Present During Your Rehab Process?

Today I want to talk about something that is pretty fun. Are you present during your rehabilitation process? This is a fun topic for me, because you can interpret this in many different ways. So what does being present mean?

When you go to someone to get help, don’t just sit there and zone out. This will not help you and you won’t get much out of the session. However, if you walk side by side with them, you are going to start learning what your body is really doing. This is because you are paying attention to what is happening. To be present, you have to stop everything. For example, when you go to a massage therapist and you go to sit down on the table, clear out all the noise. You need to pause and then listen to what is going on. Then clarify by paying attention to what your massage therapist is doing. How does it feel as your muscles are being worked on? Trust your body and what you are doing to be present. When you are running outside, stop all the distractive noise. It is you time. Listen to what’s truly happening. How does your knee feel as it’s running? Then clarify by seeing how it needs to move instead. Finally, trust your body to take you to through that process. You will be surprised how just that thought change will shift the way you feel. This applies to all rehabilitation processes.

No longer can you solely depend on someone for improving yourself, you need to be part of the process by being present. This is because the body is designed to defend itself against anything external. So be present on what’s happening and keep an active role. Don’t ever let anyone take your power away, because then you are diminishing your self-worth. That’s not worth it, because then your body is going to give up. Remember this: whatever you tell yourself – is right. If you think someone else needs to fix your pain, then someone else will need to fix your pain. Yet if you think you can improve by yourself with some assistance, then this different type of thinking will change your attitude. So please stay present during your rehabilitative process. If you liked this tip, please share it to others. This is important in getting people to look within to see what it is they need help with.

5 Negotiation Tips for Women

Statistically soeaking, women’s median income have been 19% less than men’s – at least in the United States. Of course, there are numerous variables involved including age, occupations, hours worked, etc. that contribute to the lower median income, but after being controlled for; it’s been found that the comparable incomes have been lower for women. One reason is that women often find it more difficult to negotiate wages than men. To help with that, here are 5 tips to aid you in your next negotiation:

1) Don’t go in cold

All too often, we’ve seen women enter negotiations ‘cold’, not having rehearsed the negotiation in their mind before the event, nor have they rehearsed the various conversational threads and points that might be raised during the negotiation. While it is not possible to predict the actual conversation, most of the points in a good performance review / salary negotiation should already have been covered beforehand. Rehearse your answers in your mind or with someone else and you’ll feel more comfortable when the negotiation does happen.

2) Keep written notes of your contributions. Numbers matter.

If this is your initial salary negotiation on being hired, keep notes of your past accomplishments on hand. If you are negotiating a raise, you should have been keeping notes of your accomplishments with the company – everything from major projects you have managed, new tasks and responsibilities you have taken on to money you have saved the company. Anything you can nail down to hard numbers will help even more during the negotiation by giving you hard data to back up your requests.

3) Know your worth

You can’t negotiate if you don’t understand what you are really worth. Use websites like PayScale and talk to others in the field to get an understanding of what you are worth. Of course there are industry and company differences, but without a benchmark it’s impossible to tell how well you are doing.

4) Numbers first

If at all possible, let the employer name their number first. In addition, their first offer (or counter-offer) is often not their final offer.

5) Not about money

Do not forget – the negotiation is not just about wages. Secondary benefits like telecommuting, sick days, vacation days, an expense account can all be negotiated. Often, a cash-strapped business might not be able to offer direct salary compensation but will be flexible in other areas. Lastly, a final tip – you can also negotiate to come back to review your accomplishments in a shorter time-frame than 1 year.

How Following Robert’s Rules Affects Present Day Board Meetings

The official guide on how members of the United States Senate should behave was written by Thomas Jefferson in his “The Manual of Parliamentary Practice” which unfortunately was not followed to the letter. A state of confusion about parliamentary rules continued until Major Henry Robert came up with his Roberts Rules of Order.

How The Rules Originated

The initial rules laid down by Major Robert were followed practices followed at the United States House of Representatives, but Major Robert brought in additional modifications that would prove to be useful to common American citizens as well. Even today, nearly 145 years after it was initially written, the Robert’s Rules of Order is the last authority on parliamentary proceedings in the United States. The basic concept of Robert’s Rules gave group meetings a sense of cohesion and order which was shown to avoid chaos. It followed the principle that to make a vital and important decision, one of the first rules is maintaining order within the meeting. It gives all participants a chance to air their views in a civilized manner without any member’s opinions being ignored.

Order From Chaos And Confusion

Any meeting that follows these rules has to begin with a general call to order, following which a roll call is instituted; a Roberts Rule of Order, which is still followed today in millions of meeting daily. The next sequence of the rules is that office bearers in the committee then read out a full report of the activities that have taken place up to the day of the meeting. Subsequent to that, there is a reading of the agenda of the meeting, before the matter is discussed in full by all participating members. Various points of orders could be raised and after all the points in the aforementioned agenda is discussed. Any business that was not concluded or any matter that is in need to be discussed in the next meeting is put forward, after which the meeting is closed.

Present Day Relevance

Since its introduction in 1867, companies and organizations all around the world have endorsed Robert’s Rules as one of the most powerful tools in making meetings effective. The eleventh edition of the book has experienced some minor alterations, but the original concepts have not been changed in any way. Following Robert’s Rules has been shown to bring order in meetings which have degenerated into confusion and chaos. This confusion, which has followed by non-adherence of the principles of Robert’s Rules, has been experienced in many a board meeting or other general meetings. However, following the rules in general has saved time; implementation of good and useful ideas and suggestions taken on board, for the general well-being of the company.